Sunday, December 31, 2006
Step One: Silent Praise
Let Your Body Do the Praising A wise sage once said, "Love is the irresistible desire to be desired irresistibly." When you first meet your Quarry, your body should shout, "I desire you irresistibly. My conscious mind may not know it yet, but see how my body is responding to yours." Your first praise should be unspoken. You can silently praise your Quarry by showing instinctive body language deference. Upon first spotting him or her, you can even let your eyes do a subtle double take. Look once. Look away. Then let your eyes snap back as though they had a mind of their own. While talking, maintain profound eye contact with the intense gaze technique. Use Bedroom Eyes to make your pupils grow large with appreciation. Use Sticky Eyes to make your Quarry feel you can't take your eyes away—even during silences. Make sure your body focuses upon your Quarry's and that you are smiling, leaning slightly forward, and nodding in approval (soften). In short, use the body language techniques we previously discussed. During this crucial initial conversation with your Quarry, make sure you maintain your own confident posture. Force any thoughts of "How am I doing?" out of your mind. Your total concentration must be on your Quarry and your discovery of how wonderful he or she is. Your demeanor should express, "I'm OK—and you are wonderful!" TECHNIQUE #32: BODY PRAISE When you meet your Quarry, give the subliminal sense that you are irresistibly drawn to him or her through deferential body language. Choose from the earlier selection of eye and body techniques to express how he or she has captivated you.